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ISSUE NO. 11 | SEPTEMBER 2026

The Courage to Set Boundaries

Greetings Reader,

Have you ever agreed to something and almost immediately thought, Why did I just say yes to that?

I have.

Sometimes we know exactly where we need a boundary. The harder part is being willing to set it.

We worry about disappointing someone. We don't want to seem unhelpful or difficult. And sometimes saying yes simply feels easier than sitting with the discomfort of saying no.

But I've been thinking lately about the other kind of discomfort—the frustration or resentment that can come when we repeatedly override what we already know.

This month, we're exploring the courage it takes to set boundaries and why protecting our time and energy isn't simply about saying no. It's also about making room for what matters.

I'm glad you're here.

Stepping into Your Next Chapter

Most of us don't struggle with boundaries because we don't understand what they are.

We struggle because setting one can disappoint someone.

So we accommodate. We take on one more thing. We answer the message when we're supposed to be finished for the day. We make ourselves available because it's easier than explaining why we can't be.

And often, we're very good at it.

The problem is that every yes has a cost. Sometimes it's time. Sometimes it's energy. Sometimes it's attention that should have gone somewhere more important.

Over time, a rhythm built around everyone else's needs can quietly become unsustainable.

Setting a boundary isn't about becoming less generous, less committed, or less dependable. It's about becoming more intentional about where your capacity goes.

That takes courage.

Because a meaningful boundary may require allowing someone else to be disappointed. It may mean tolerating a little discomfort instead of immediately stepping in to make things easier. And it may require questioning expectations you've followed for so long that they no longer feel like choices.

The goal isn't to build walls around your life.

It's to create a rhythm that allows you to give your best attention to what genuinely matters—including yourself.

Sometimes the boundary you're most reluctant to set is pointing directly toward something you've been neglecting for too long.

Try This...

Think about one area of your life or leadership where you regularly find yourself saying yes when you'd rather say no.

Don't decide what boundary you need to set just yet. Instead, ask yourself:

• What am I saying yes to? Be specific about the request, expectation, or habit.
• What is that yes costing me? Consider your time, energy, attention, priorities, or even resentment.
• What am I afraid might happen if I say no? Someone may be disappointed. You may have to explain yourself. Or perhaps you're afraid of being perceived differently.
• What would this boundary make room for? What could receive more of your attention if you weren't giving it here?

Then consider:

What is one small boundary I could practice this week?

It doesn't have to be dramatic. Sometimes designing a different rhythm begins with one decision about where your energy will—and won't—go.

A Question I Am Sitting With

Where am I continuing to say yes when something in me is already saying no?

TRUE Story

I've been thinking about resentment lately—not necessarily resentment toward other people, but the kind we can feel toward ourselves when we agree to something we didn't really want to do.

Recently, I received an invitation to meet with someone I'd met through networking. In the past, I probably would have accepted.

I would have told myself it was only an hour. That I should be open to the connection. That maybe something useful would come from it.

And then, if the meeting turned out to be something I hadn't wanted to spend my time on, I would have been frustrated—not only about the meeting, but with myself for agreeing to it when I'd already had reservations.

This time, I noticed that feeling before I said yes.

And I realized something: I didn't owe someone my time simply because they'd asked for it.

That doesn't make the other person's request unreasonable. And it doesn't make me unkind for declining it.

It simply means I get to decide where my time and energy go.

I think resentment can sometimes be useful information. It can show us where we've been saying yes out of obligation, habit, or discomfort rather than intention.

The goal isn't to never inconvenience or accommodate another person. Relationships require both.

But when we repeatedly override our own judgment to avoid disappointing someone else, eventually we may become the person we're disappointing.

Sometimes a boundary begins by noticing the resentment—and asking what it's trying to tell us.

Ready for Your Next Chapter?

If this article put words to something you've been experiencing, I'd love to hear what resonated.

Maybe there's a boundary you've known you need to set. Or perhaps you're beginning to notice how often your time and energy are shaped by other people's expectations.

You don't have to redesign everything at once.

Sometimes clarity begins by noticing where your current rhythm is no longer supporting you.

If you'd like a private place to begin, my brief reflection can help you put words to what's happening, what matters most, and what may need your attention now.

→ Begin Your Reflection​

And if you'd rather simply reply to this email and tell me what's on your mind, you're welcome to do that, too.

If you're curious about how these ideas fit into the broader Leading TRUE framework, you can explore the journey here.

Until next month remember, you don't need a new title to lead differently.

In your corner,

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